Latrobe, Pennsylvania April 30, 2010,
of Agent Orange-related causes. Predeceased by his parents, Donald
Huffman Gaston and Genevieve Owens Gaston, he is survived
by his loving wife of thirty-six years, Elizabeth
Andros Gaston of Ligonier, and a sister Phyllis Ann Gaston Golias
and husband Bernard of Hinckley, Ohio. Survivors also include a host
of exceptional friends, and two cherished polydactyl felines, Nip ‘n
Tuck.
Born in Ft. Wayne, Indiana January 15,
1930, Don attended grade schools there and in Erie, Pennsylvania and
Evansville, Indiana. He graduated from Castle Heights Military
Academy in Lebanon, Tennessee, and attended Marietta College in
Marietta, Ohio for two years while also serving in the West Virginia
National Guard. He then entered the United States Military Academy
at West Point, graduating with the Class of 1954, was commissioned
in the Infantry, and later transferred to the Corps of Engineers. In
1960 he received his Master’s Degree in Civil Engineering from Texas
A&M University.
Don’s multiple assignments took him to
Alaska, Kansas, Virginia, Greenland, the Antarctic, D.C., Vietnam,
and Hawaii. Re the Antarctic assignment he jokingly said that while
there he was known as “the Army’s leading expert in the
densification of hand-compacted snow samples.”
During his first tour in Vietnam with
the 35th Engineer Group, Don trained an
Engineer Battalion and moved the unit into active
combat. He then became the
Engineer Group Executive Officer and Supply Officer
for five Engineer Battalions
and nine Engineer Companies actively engaged in
combat areas.
Because Don had successfully hosted VIPs
in Greenland, in 1969 he was assigned Chief of Protocol, Department
of the Army Directorate of Foreign Liaison at the Pentagon. As such,
he was responsible for the diplomatic accreditation – and the care
and feeding on official US trips – of military attachés representing
sixty-five countries, turning him, one might say, into
a Soldier/Diplomat! He “clicked” so well with the
attachés that the Soviet military delegation “adopted” him!
In 1972 Don returned to Vietnam and was
named Chief of Protocol, Military
Assistance Command Vietnam. His responsibilities
included escorting visiting VIPs upcountry, insuring their safety in
actual combat areas. During drawdown of forces Don was the first
officer to establish contact with officers of the North Vietnam Army
for in-country discussions re MIA/POW releases. This second tour
extended into a third, and ended when Don left Vietnam on the last
military aircraft out of Saigon on 31 March 1973,
bound for Hawaii.
There Don was assigned to the personal
staff of the Commander-in-Chief Pacific, as the Congressional
Liaison Officer – and that tour included a wedding!
Don had met Elizabeth during his
Pentagon assignment when Elizabeth—a
Department of State Foreign Service Staff Officer—was
in D.C. between Vietnam
assignments. When Don returned to Vietnam, he and
Elizabeth resumed their
relationship in Saigon—and also dated in Hong Kong,
Bangkok, and Bali. In 1973, when Don left Saigon for Hawaii,
Elizabeth went to Peking, China, where
she and eleven other members of the Foreign Service
set up and staffed the new
U.S. Liaison Office—a result of President Nixon’s
visit to China. She and Don kept in touch by extremely expensive
phone calls. They soon arranged a meeting in Hong Kong and became
engaged. In April 1974 Elizabeth resigned from the Foreign Service
and left China for Hawaii, where she and Don were married in the
Fort Shafter Army Chapel.
Notable military careers involve
perilous events. Don was thankful to survive Tet and two chopper
crashes, but suffered the effects of Agent Orange. Of his many
decorations, Don valued most his two Legions of Merit and two Bronze
Stars.
Don retired from the Army in 1975, the
couple settled in Alexandria, Virginia, and Don encouraged Elizabeth
to reignite her career. She returned to the State Department, was
assigned to the Secretary of State’s personal staff, and Don kept
the home fires burning while she traveled the world with the
Secretary.
Ever the romantic, Don always met Elizabeth at
Andrews AFB with a single
rose upon her return.
Don became a successful Realtor/Broker,
and the engineer in him found time to beautifully remodel their Mt.
Vernon area home. Soon after Elizabeth retired in 1989 the couple
moved to Ligonier, Pennsylvania.
In Ligonier, engineer Don greatly
enjoyed remodeling MerryMeadow—the home they purchased by a meadow
complete with sheep! He also golfed with good
buddies Tom, Fritz, and Bruce at Ligonier Country
Club, and became a volunteer
for Meals on Wheels. He belonged to many
organizations, including the Sons of
Confederate Veterans.
Don’s love of country and West
Point never diminished. He asked that the Cadet Prayer be included
in his funeral service, and a copy given each attendee. And so it
was. Most thoughtful to the end, he decided against burial at
Arlington or West Point—he knew Elizabeth couldn’t visit often or
plant flowers, as she wished. So he chose to rest in St. Vincent
Cemetery, Latrobe, Pennsylvania, beside Elizabeth’s parents.
Elizabeth had the reverse of Don’s tombstone specially engraved with
a flag and a haiku:
West Point Officer
Of the fabled Long Gray Line
Duty, Honor, Country
And on the base: Well done.
Be thou at peace.
Although newly remarried, Elizabeth cares for Don’s
grave throughout the year, always having a flag flying there for her
Donald, whom she called her “Silver Treasure.”
Re her recent marriage to Dr. Adib
Barsoum, a retired Neurosurgeon: Having
enjoyed Don’s exquisite sense of humor for
thirty-eight years, Elizabeth can almost hear him laughing aloud and
saying, “See!! I set the damn bar so high it took a brilliant brain
surgeon to follow me!”
He’d be so right.